Divorce, that ugly word with stigma dripping down and pooling all around it. What can you do about it? Nothing, absolutely fucking nothing; stop trying to reason with it or ignore it. Accept it for what it is and gather yourself and stat to move on. It won't be easy but it's a necessity that you start to rebuild. Whether the divorce was your fault or your significant other's fault; forgiveness is one the steps needed to start the rebuilding process. Will there be days where you want to give up? You better believe it. Will there be days where you second guess every decision you have made up until this very moment in your life; of course? What's the secret to moving on? Fuck if I know but I know it's not dwelling on the past and crying about it. However, I think I can offer a little hope. That hope comes in the form or idea of focusing. Focusing on one thing at a time. Don't try to do everything at once. One task at a time; one fucking task at a time.
That task can be anything from having to find a place to live, to figuring out the custody of your kids if you have them or even custody of your pets. Be a man of focus. This focus will make you see things in a clearer light and allow you to make decisions you won't later have to undo because you acted out of reaction and not focus. Try it and it will work. My first area of focus was finding a place to live. I thought of nothing else. The divorce was happening there was no need to whine about that. Yes, I needed to figure out sharing custody of my daughter but if I didn't have a place to live then what good would figuring out the custody of my daughter do? Can you see where I am going with this. Focus on the task at hand and only the task at hand. If you don't then it will overwhelm you.
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